Mr. Carlton Johnson
25 NOV 2015
How to persuade someone by conversation
There have been many cases about using violence in order to persuade someone especially students. These are considered as serious problems nowadays. Before starting to introduce this research paper, it is focused on school violence which occurs between teachers and students. School parents have been being more careful of their sons and daughters, which results in prohibition in violence of teachers and professors. Therefore the purpose of this research paper is to find how to persuade someone peacefully.
This research paper is divided into three parts. First part of this paper is explaining about the drawbacks when we use violent methods in persuading someone. Next is peaceful resolution which contains psychological approach to this problem. Last of all is the conclusion part, where the whole contents in this research paper are summarized.
Why students misbehave
“Sometimes things are going on in their lives that teachers don’t know about. They’re anxious, upset, or angry because of these things, and it comes out in the classroom.”
“Some students act out to conceal lack of skills or knowledge. They can’t do the work, and they don’t want people to know it.”
“I don’t like people trying to control my life. I’m my own man…. I don’t like people telling me what I got to do. But if you come up and ask me, that’s different”(Larson).
Teaching and student behavior
“The biggest behavior problem…is talking in class. Nobody wants to sit for an hour at a desk and hear the teacher teach the same thing day after day. They’re bored.”
“Students need to take responsibility, too. They’re always complaining about how messed up the class is, but then they’re the ones messing it up.”
“Some teachers move too fast, give you two minutes to copy something down. Students can’t get it done and get mad.”
“I know two teachers at my school who teach the same grade and subject. The difference is one has a great attitude and skills, the other doesn’t. The behavior of the students in these two classes is like night and day” (Girard).
As you can infer from the interviews above, the conflicts between students and teachers occur because of the difference of an interest. And it results in violence. It seems that most of teachers don’t know how to solve the conflicts peacefully or maybe just give up in persuading their students. Before going on to next part, there is a precondition based on these examples in finding the peaceful resolutions. The most important part of this persuasion is understanding and nonviolence. Therefore only peaceful methods and psychological approaches are in part 2.
Before starting to write the regular resolutions, the social psychological approach is on the beginning of this part.
What does social psychology know that isn’t already known by those who use persuasion and compliance tactics on a daily basis? Why doesn’t one learn the general principles of social influence in business, advertising, or law? It’s because the goals of social psychology are different.
Social psychology attempts to generate general answers and propose fundamental laws about how the human “hardware” functions, to borrow a term from computer science. It wouldn’t ask, “What can we say to make people decide to buy a car?” but rather, “What makes people decide to say yes to all sorts of requests to buy a car, to contribute to a cause, to take a new job?” Then, as a science, social psychology puts its hypotheses to the test.
The result is a body of knowledge that contains a constellation of repeatable, verifiable facts regarding human thought and behavior–and how those thoughts and behaviors may be changed.
Unfortunately, many of “persuasion peddlers” have no scientific background and no systematic training in, or understanding of, how influence may be systematically applied (although many of them are savvy enough to make themselves sound scientific) (Ellen,88-89).
As you can infer from this passage, social psychology is used in many places. What people need to focus on is that every concept is using psychological methods is all similar. It means in persuading someone to buy a car, to eat, or not to do bad things, many things are common in there. According to this result, now peaceful methods will be introduced.
These methods are usually used in school, and they are directly related to the main purpose of this paper. And what will be introduced now is the most important part of this paper.
Peaceful methods to persuade students in school
In a sit-in the interventionists occupy certain facilities by sitting on available chairs, stools, and occasionally on the floor for a limited or unlimited period, either in a single act or in a series of acts, with the objective of disrupting the normal pattern of activities. The purpose may be to establish a new pattern, such as opening particular facilities to previously excluded persons, or to make a protest which may not be directly connected with the facilities occupied. This method has often been used in the civil rights movement in the United States(Brooklyn).
The sit-down is an act of noncooperation in which the participants actually sit down on the street, road, ground, or floor and refuse to leave voluntarily, for either a limited or an indefinite period of time. The sit-down may be a spontaneous act, or a reaction decided on in advance, as a response to orders for a march or other demonstration to disperse. Or it may be combined with civil disobedience to some regulatory law as a serious type of symbolic resistance. The sit-down may also be used to halt ordinary traffic or tanks, or to prevent workers or officials from carrying out their work. In these cases it becomes a method of nonviolent intervention (either nonviolent interjection or nonviolent obstruction, which are described in the next chapter). In recent years the sit-down appears to have been more widely used than previously (White).
Numerous conflicts and problems are inevitable when people gather up and communicate with each other. Peaceful resolutions, however, are not easily accomplished. Seeking for peaceful resolutions, therefore, is an important question we need to solve. Though nobody can ascertain which is the best way in solving confrontations, our ongoing effort in seeking for an answer on our own, apparently, would make a positive change in our society.
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